May 27, 2011
February 26, 2011
Worst Human Rights Violation on Earth
You're looking at a $10 BILLION industry where girls are kidnapped and forced into prostitution from all over the world. To date, Kamathipura (in Mumbai) is the largest red light district in the ENTIRE WORLD. This is not like any place else in the world, however, because NOWHERE ELSE on Earth are girls as young as 7 abducted and held against their will in tiny holes in the house so that police don't find them. NOWHERE ELSE in the world are they fed as little as once a day, if that, and forced to have abortions without anesthesia. NOWHERE ELSE in the world is the rate of HIV/AIDS 30% among all prostitutes and spreading!
You want to talk about India turning into a developed country? Is THIS how developed nations behave?
Hell is here on Earth, where we are not looking out for the most vulnerable of beings. What if this was your child, your sister, your mother?
The question is this: what are you going to do about it?
You want to talk about India turning into a developed country? Is THIS how developed nations behave?
Hell is here on Earth, where we are not looking out for the most vulnerable of beings. What if this was your child, your sister, your mother?
The question is this: what are you going to do about it?
February 25, 2011
Favorite Quote
“No biblical hell could ever be worse than the state of perpetual inconsequence.” –Dangerous Beauty
February 19, 2011
Happy Rapping in Indian Music
The power of Rap music comes from angst, one of the strongest of emotions. The slur of the words, the punch of the beat...all of it matters. The watered down version presently done in Indian (esp filmy Indian) music is somewhat annoying. I guess this goes down on the list with unrealistic London-NRI stories, and unrealistic dream song sequences...the music too is quite "wannabe"
February 18, 2011
Wishlist of Everywhere I want to go!
- Great Barrier Reef, Australia
- Pyramids at Giza, Egypt
- Venice, Italy
- Amazon Rainforest, South America
- Kalahari Desert, Botswana-Namibia-South Africa
- Vatican City, Italy
- Santorini, Greece
- Pamukkale, Turkey
- Chichen Itza, Mexico
- Easter Island, Chile
- Machu Pichu, Peru
- Yosemite National Park, United States
February 15, 2011
Coconuts taste bad even if your boyfriend likes them.
I would just like to know why people in relationships always want to bring their significant other into the conversation event when they're not invited.
Why? I just want to know why? Why don't people act this way about their grandparents or their cousins?
You won't ever find someone to say "yeah, I love honeysuckles but my cousin hates the smell." You would never find that! Somehow people just assume that you want to know their boyfriends' and fiancés' opinions about EVERYTHING.
It's like, okay, I get it, you're in a relationship. I don't really care what your husband thinks about turquoise or why he didn't want to take you to the Mexico. All I want to know is whether you repainted your house or whether you'll be in town in December.
- When you say "how was your day today?" they say "it was great, I had lunch with my boyfriend."
- You ask, "what are you opinions about coconuts?" they say "I love them, but my fiancé hates them."
- You ask, "what are you doing over spring break?" they say "oh I'm going to New York."You say "oh that's awesome; I love New York." They say, "yeah, my boyfriend has an apartment there and I'm helping him move in."
Why? I just want to know why? Why don't people act this way about their grandparents or their cousins?
You won't ever find someone to say "yeah, I love honeysuckles but my cousin hates the smell." You would never find that! Somehow people just assume that you want to know their boyfriends' and fiancés' opinions about EVERYTHING.
It's like, okay, I get it, you're in a relationship. I don't really care what your husband thinks about turquoise or why he didn't want to take you to the Mexico. All I want to know is whether you repainted your house or whether you'll be in town in December.
February 9, 2011
College Girls make the same mistakes
There is a common mistake that college-age girls make and wonder why it is that they never have a serious relationship with a guy.
Girls, think back to your high school days. Was it really that hard to be in a relationship with a guy? Probably not. So, why is it harder in college?
The immediate response that most girls give me is: "well, college guys are just plain more interested in sex than dating," or "no one in college really looks for anything serious," or worse, "I don't know maybe I just repel guys who actually want a relationship.:
I'm not saying that some of these reasons aren't true for some guys. Sure, there may be a lot of guys who really are just interested in hooking up with as many girls as they can. And of course, lots of people want to focus on school and don't want anything serious. Maybe some girls really do repel guys who want a relationship. But how likely are any of these reasons?
If you ask most of our parents, the most serious relationships they were in were when they were in college. So, what makes us any different from them.
From what I've seen, I think there are some common mistakes that these girls make. They're pretty easy to spot from a 3rd person outsider point of view; but, maybe they're not so obvious when these girls are in the situation themselves.
For the sake of this explanation, let's take the typical college-age girl, and let's call her Jane.
Jane's mindset when she comes to college is to explore the next stage of her life, career-wise, in terms of friends, and of course, romantically as well.
As a freshman year student, maybe Jane is so excited to be in college that she goes to a few Frat parties (like all Freshman) and messes around with a few guys. She is excited by the fact that guys in college are so forward, and ready to compliment her on her good looks and charm. Never mind that they're probably a little drunk from the copious amounts of cheap alcohol they've been drinking. Of course, they're nicer than high school boys, she thinks. So, when a guy# 1 (let's call him Joe) wants to hook up with her, she consents. She is a little tipsy at the time in which she consents, but still thinks she's sober enough to make rational decisions. In fact, she is so sober enough that she even remembers to get his number at the party. Joe seems like a swell guy and even says that he really likes her and that they should "hang out again sometime." Unfortunately for Jane, Joe is going on study abroad the next day, as he breaks to her in the last minute as he is walking her home. He won't be back till next semester. He'll be in Argentina, though. So, Jane should text him her email address and they'll keep in touch.
Joe never calls back.
The next weekend Jane goes to the same frat and sees Joe there. Big surprise, he's hitting on another poor first year girl. Jane can't control her anger or her tears. So, she turns around and heads back to the dorms. She calls her friend the next morning and tells her that she can't believe what happened. She hates Frat guys and will never let something like this happen ever again. Jane vows never to go to a Frat ever again.
***
A year goes by, and sure Jane has met many great guys, but doesn't trust herself to get too flirty o too attached. She says that she's waiting for the right guy, In fact, she's friends with a guy named Mike, who seems really great. They're just really good friends, though, Jane thinks. But she can't get over how cute he is. Too back Mike has a girlfriend.
Mike and Jane go out sometimes with the rest of their group of friends. However, being cooler Sophomores, they only go to house parties. Jane thinks this is safer because friends of friends must be nice guys. She meets a guy there named Dan.
Dan flirts with Jane all night and offers to walk her home. Outside her apartment, they sit on the bench and start making out. Dan asks if Jane wants to go over to his place. Since he is such a nice guy, Jane says "yes." They hook up.
The next day Jane sees Dan in her Psychology class. He waves and she goes over and sits next to them. Soon, they become study-buddies and start spending a lot of time together. Dan is clearly into her, Jane thinks. He flirts with her all the time, and always tells her how she looks nice. So, one night when they are at another party, Jane tries to kiss him. But Dan back away. He says that he knew what happened at the party and that it was a mistake, because he has a girlfriend back home. He would feel really bad if he cheated on her. Dan says how much he respects Jane's friendship and still wants to be friends. But he's just not in the right place for a relationship right now.
Jane is furious, but doesn't really know what to do. She is mad at herself for letting herself get so attached to Dan.
She goes back home that night, in tears and calls her best friend on the phone to say how stupid she thinks guys are, and how she hates all of them.
***
Jane is older now, a Junior, and much wiser. She promises herself that this year is going to be the year that it happens. She is finally going to meet that wonderful guy who is going to sweep her off of her feet. Too bad, no one told Jane that real life is not a Fairy Tale.
One night, her good friend Mike calls her over to come hang out with him at his place. It's the beginning of a new year, and Jane knows that Mike had broken up with his girlfriend over the summer. She is super excited, because Mike is clearly cute, and whether or not he is into her, she really likes him because he is a good friend.
So, she goes over. Being the first weekend back at school, there are tons of parties. So, they party hop from one place to another. Eventually they both get so drunk that they start making out and end up hooking up. The next morning, Mike walks Jane back to her house.
Jane thinks that this is perfect, but doesn't know if Mike wants anything serious. However, he keeps texting her and calling her....certainly flirting with her. One weekend, when nothing in terms of parties was really going on, Jane was doing homework, when Mike called.
He told her how he's scared because he is too attracted to her and asks if he can see her right away. He comes over to pick her up and they go back to his place. They have sex.
The next day, Jane IMs him. He's being super nice to her, and making jokes, but the thing Jane really wants to ask is what he thinks of her. Jane finally gets the guts to do this and asks. However, Mike shocks the hell out of her by saying that yes, he likes her and yes, he's very very attracted to her but just isn't "feeling romantic" right now. He says that he's not really at a "point in his life" where he is "looking for anything serious."
Jane is hurt.
She can't believe that he would risk losing their friendship just for a one-night stand. Jane can't believe he thinks that she would agree to being a friend-with-benefits. Did he really think that she was "that kind of girl"?
Jane runs into mike everywhere because they are in the same circle of friends. She hates it and stops hanging out with their group.
***
Finally, Jane is a Senior. This is her last shot, she thinks. Someone has to ask her out. I mean, what was really wrong with her anyway? Wasn't she pretty and smart and fun to be with? Why couldn't she be in a relationship?
Senior year end, and still she is single.
***
Poor Jane, if only someone had explained her faults to her.
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As you can see, there are some things that Jane commonly does that allows guys, even nice ones, to take advantage of her.
She lets herself be the slut, thinking that "that's what girls too." She becomes too easy, and always hooks up with the guy and expects for a relationship to come out of it.
Also, all of her romantic encounters happen at parties, in the dark, when she is drunk.
So, really, if Jane asks what is wrong with her, the answer is simple: she makes all the wrong choices.
She goes after all the wrong guys, who think that she is too easy to take advantage of. And there is no reason to be angry that, say, Mike thought she was the "friend with benefits" type girl, because really, she has never been in a relationship- yet she is not a virgin. So, why wouldn't Mike think that?
I hate to bee the heartless person in this situation, but Jane, you need to understand that the only common factor in all your romantic encounters is you. So, if the same thing happens over and over again, and you somehow seem to run into the same guy over and over again, that's because YOU are doing all the wrong things.
A guy you have known for 1-2 years maybe a good friend, but he is still a recent friend. So, you can't go around being mad at every guy you meet for the rest of your life. A little introspection....maybe try meeting someone when they are sober....maybe don't hook up with guy the first time you meet him.....maybe don't be the "rebound girl."
All of these things are so obvious to the outside observer.
If you just step out of your box, you will see what I am talking about.
Girls, think back to your high school days. Was it really that hard to be in a relationship with a guy? Probably not. So, why is it harder in college?
The immediate response that most girls give me is: "well, college guys are just plain more interested in sex than dating," or "no one in college really looks for anything serious," or worse, "I don't know maybe I just repel guys who actually want a relationship.:
I'm not saying that some of these reasons aren't true for some guys. Sure, there may be a lot of guys who really are just interested in hooking up with as many girls as they can. And of course, lots of people want to focus on school and don't want anything serious. Maybe some girls really do repel guys who want a relationship. But how likely are any of these reasons?
If you ask most of our parents, the most serious relationships they were in were when they were in college. So, what makes us any different from them.
From what I've seen, I think there are some common mistakes that these girls make. They're pretty easy to spot from a 3rd person outsider point of view; but, maybe they're not so obvious when these girls are in the situation themselves.
For the sake of this explanation, let's take the typical college-age girl, and let's call her Jane.
Jane's mindset when she comes to college is to explore the next stage of her life, career-wise, in terms of friends, and of course, romantically as well.
As a freshman year student, maybe Jane is so excited to be in college that she goes to a few Frat parties (like all Freshman) and messes around with a few guys. She is excited by the fact that guys in college are so forward, and ready to compliment her on her good looks and charm. Never mind that they're probably a little drunk from the copious amounts of cheap alcohol they've been drinking. Of course, they're nicer than high school boys, she thinks. So, when a guy# 1 (let's call him Joe) wants to hook up with her, she consents. She is a little tipsy at the time in which she consents, but still thinks she's sober enough to make rational decisions. In fact, she is so sober enough that she even remembers to get his number at the party. Joe seems like a swell guy and even says that he really likes her and that they should "hang out again sometime." Unfortunately for Jane, Joe is going on study abroad the next day, as he breaks to her in the last minute as he is walking her home. He won't be back till next semester. He'll be in Argentina, though. So, Jane should text him her email address and they'll keep in touch.
Joe never calls back.
The next weekend Jane goes to the same frat and sees Joe there. Big surprise, he's hitting on another poor first year girl. Jane can't control her anger or her tears. So, she turns around and heads back to the dorms. She calls her friend the next morning and tells her that she can't believe what happened. She hates Frat guys and will never let something like this happen ever again. Jane vows never to go to a Frat ever again.
***
A year goes by, and sure Jane has met many great guys, but doesn't trust herself to get too flirty o too attached. She says that she's waiting for the right guy, In fact, she's friends with a guy named Mike, who seems really great. They're just really good friends, though, Jane thinks. But she can't get over how cute he is. Too back Mike has a girlfriend.
Mike and Jane go out sometimes with the rest of their group of friends. However, being cooler Sophomores, they only go to house parties. Jane thinks this is safer because friends of friends must be nice guys. She meets a guy there named Dan.
Dan flirts with Jane all night and offers to walk her home. Outside her apartment, they sit on the bench and start making out. Dan asks if Jane wants to go over to his place. Since he is such a nice guy, Jane says "yes." They hook up.
The next day Jane sees Dan in her Psychology class. He waves and she goes over and sits next to them. Soon, they become study-buddies and start spending a lot of time together. Dan is clearly into her, Jane thinks. He flirts with her all the time, and always tells her how she looks nice. So, one night when they are at another party, Jane tries to kiss him. But Dan back away. He says that he knew what happened at the party and that it was a mistake, because he has a girlfriend back home. He would feel really bad if he cheated on her. Dan says how much he respects Jane's friendship and still wants to be friends. But he's just not in the right place for a relationship right now.
Jane is furious, but doesn't really know what to do. She is mad at herself for letting herself get so attached to Dan.
She goes back home that night, in tears and calls her best friend on the phone to say how stupid she thinks guys are, and how she hates all of them.
***
Jane is older now, a Junior, and much wiser. She promises herself that this year is going to be the year that it happens. She is finally going to meet that wonderful guy who is going to sweep her off of her feet. Too bad, no one told Jane that real life is not a Fairy Tale.
One night, her good friend Mike calls her over to come hang out with him at his place. It's the beginning of a new year, and Jane knows that Mike had broken up with his girlfriend over the summer. She is super excited, because Mike is clearly cute, and whether or not he is into her, she really likes him because he is a good friend.
So, she goes over. Being the first weekend back at school, there are tons of parties. So, they party hop from one place to another. Eventually they both get so drunk that they start making out and end up hooking up. The next morning, Mike walks Jane back to her house.
Jane thinks that this is perfect, but doesn't know if Mike wants anything serious. However, he keeps texting her and calling her....certainly flirting with her. One weekend, when nothing in terms of parties was really going on, Jane was doing homework, when Mike called.
He told her how he's scared because he is too attracted to her and asks if he can see her right away. He comes over to pick her up and they go back to his place. They have sex.
The next day, Jane IMs him. He's being super nice to her, and making jokes, but the thing Jane really wants to ask is what he thinks of her. Jane finally gets the guts to do this and asks. However, Mike shocks the hell out of her by saying that yes, he likes her and yes, he's very very attracted to her but just isn't "feeling romantic" right now. He says that he's not really at a "point in his life" where he is "looking for anything serious."
Jane is hurt.
She can't believe that he would risk losing their friendship just for a one-night stand. Jane can't believe he thinks that she would agree to being a friend-with-benefits. Did he really think that she was "that kind of girl"?
Jane runs into mike everywhere because they are in the same circle of friends. She hates it and stops hanging out with their group.
***
Finally, Jane is a Senior. This is her last shot, she thinks. Someone has to ask her out. I mean, what was really wrong with her anyway? Wasn't she pretty and smart and fun to be with? Why couldn't she be in a relationship?
Senior year end, and still she is single.
***
Poor Jane, if only someone had explained her faults to her.
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As you can see, there are some things that Jane commonly does that allows guys, even nice ones, to take advantage of her.
She lets herself be the slut, thinking that "that's what girls too." She becomes too easy, and always hooks up with the guy and expects for a relationship to come out of it.
Also, all of her romantic encounters happen at parties, in the dark, when she is drunk.
So, really, if Jane asks what is wrong with her, the answer is simple: she makes all the wrong choices.
She goes after all the wrong guys, who think that she is too easy to take advantage of. And there is no reason to be angry that, say, Mike thought she was the "friend with benefits" type girl, because really, she has never been in a relationship- yet she is not a virgin. So, why wouldn't Mike think that?
I hate to bee the heartless person in this situation, but Jane, you need to understand that the only common factor in all your romantic encounters is you. So, if the same thing happens over and over again, and you somehow seem to run into the same guy over and over again, that's because YOU are doing all the wrong things.
A guy you have known for 1-2 years maybe a good friend, but he is still a recent friend. So, you can't go around being mad at every guy you meet for the rest of your life. A little introspection....maybe try meeting someone when they are sober....maybe don't hook up with guy the first time you meet him.....maybe don't be the "rebound girl."
All of these things are so obvious to the outside observer.
If you just step out of your box, you will see what I am talking about.
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